There are two kinds of relationships that you can have with someone: one of contentment, and one of passion.

The contentment relationship is comfortable. Everything you do is normally planned and in most cases you can expect what your partner is going to do next. The really good parts of the relationship are saved for when you do something special like go out to eat or go on a special date.

The passionate are all about giving everything up for their loved one.

It never occurs to them that the feelings that they are sharing with their partner are selfless because it is second nature for them. They are relationships that people are completely vulnerable, full of kindness, and give up most of their life for their partner (often times everything).

My girlfriend and I currently have opposite work schedules so when we get to spend a day off together like we did yesterday it is really nice. We both were looking forward to the day off together all week, so I knew that it was going to be really special.

We wanted to get the most out of the time spent with each other so we did a few things that we have been wanting to do with each other for a while.

We woke up late

I know it doesn’t sound like much, but everyday my girlfriend has to wake up between 5:30 and 6:00am every morning because she has to be at work by 7:00am every day. If she is spending the night at my house that means I wake up at the same time that she does because she sets an alarm. If she is spending the night at her house, she gets ready and will usually call me on the way to work, which wakes me up a little before 7:00am every day.

So the both of us wake up early on a regular basis. It was nice to wake up and not have to do anything. We actually did make a plan to do something but the weather man said it was going to rain so we decided to just do things as they came on our day off.

Yesterday’s Time Line: What did we do?

How much do you do for your girlfriend or wife? For your boyfriend, or husband? Where do you draw the line? When do you know that you are doing too much? Questions I know that I have found myself asking my friends, and myself throughout the years.

Sure I want to make the girlfriend I am seeing the happiest she can possibly be, but is there a point of which that you are doing too much? For example, if your partner asked you to tie his/her shoes, what would you say?

Well… of course you would. There would have to be a logical reason why your partner asked you to do that. Like maybe your partner is hurt, or if he/she was drunk, or if there was some reason why she  was not capable of doing it. It better be a reason like that right? I would hope your partner isn’t just asking you to tie their shoes because they are lazy!

Personally, I would tie my girlfriends shoes if she asked because I know she really would really need me to. That’s why she would be asking me.  She would not just ask me so she could feel empowered. If she was, I would probably laugh and be like “Right…”

The title of this post, “Does She Make You Tie Her Shoes?” is a metaphor. It’s a metaphor for how much would you do for your partner?

Doing Everything They Ask

Is it true that being too nice in a relationship can lead to a disaster?  If you say “yes” to every single thing he or she asks of you is that too much?

This post is going to go over why you can never be too nice in a relationship but at the same time how it is important to be yourself.  If you always do what your partner wants and always answer questions how your partner would like them to be answered, you are not being yourself and you are not being the person that your partner fell in love with when he or she did.

A Good Balance

While it is important to be interested and do things that your partner likes to do it is also important to stand strong and say no “That is not for me”.

For example, if you are a straight man and your partner always goes shopping every other week with her friends.  She may ask you to go because she always wants to you to be there with her. Which is a really sweet gesture of her but you would rather stay home.  You should stay home.  Let her be with her friends and you will see her later.  However, if your partner wants to have dinner when she gets home you should start preparing it or have a plan to go out so she knows you were thinking about her all day long.

Another example for the straight woman who does not want to fishing with her partner even though her partner goes every other week and always asks you if you would like to go.  The thing is that you really do not like fishing.  You should stay home.   Let him have some time with his friends.  Do not worry your boyfriend is not going to be out cheating on you, he is simply going to be out fishing (just something that you would rather not be doing).  Just letting him do this without giving him a hard time is really nice and your boyfriend or husband will appreciate it greatly.

When your man fishes he probably will come home smelling like a big fish.  Have him take a shower and when he comes out have something waiting for him to be happy about.  Maybe a nice snack, some beer to share with him, a movie you went out and rented, or even just go to his bed and wait for him naked until he comes out of the shower.  Any of these are all good and healthy for your relationship.

Missing Your Significant Other Is Passionate

Just the fact that you are not with them for a little bit of there day does not mean that the other person should think you do not like them.  It should just make you both miss each other.  When you spend a life with someone it is important to always have passion for each other.  Missing each other at times is often one of the best ways to keep the passion in a relationship alive.  Otherwise things can get boring and ordinary for both of you.

So the title “Why Being Nice to Your Partner all the Time is Shooting You in the Foot” stands true.  You do not want to always do what your partner wants.  It would be like shooting yourself in the foot (a metaphor for have a boring relationship).

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