When someone is in love, it is easy to end up being in a long distance relationship at some point in the relationship. This is because love gets people to do crazy things. Crazy things like being in a relationship with someone that lives far away. Even with all the advice friends and family say about how long distance relationships do not work people still find themselves in them. This is because of the love passion people have for each other, and peoples willingness and eagerness to keep that love and passion alive.

Being away from a lover is difficult because of many reasons but among the top of those reasons lies the fact that they both miss each so much. If you would like to read more about my feelings about long distance relationships read my article, “Five Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Usually Do Not Work.”

There are only a few things one can do to make himself or herself feel better. To name a few, calling them, looking at pictures, or reading little things about love. Some people also enjoy reading quotes about long distance relationships in order to make them feel like they are not alone in their loneliness. I have put together a collection of what I believe are the best long distance love quotes below:

Long Distance Love Quotes

It is an epic time when you are having sex with someone and you both start talking dirty to each other. You may be someone that wants to start talking dirty but does not know how or where to begin.  You may wonder how your partner will react and have a bit of shyness about the whole thing.  Fortunately, all of these decisions are up to you.  There is really no rush. However, when you decide to start talking dirty, it can be like winning a massive jackpot.

You might have been having sex with your partner for years, everyday going at it day after day and night after night. When you finally start to talk dirty to one another and you receive a great reaction from your partner you will probably move on to think about what else you can do to spice things up in the future. For now though, before you can look towards the future you have to start talking dirty, and know what to say so you do not embarrass yourself.

I started to talk dirty with a girlfriend of mine back in about 2006 and at the time it was a pretty big deal for me. I had just gotten out of a long three year relationship with a girl and decided to jump right back into the dating scene once again. So I decided I was just going to do whatever I wanted and not hold anything back.  She moved during the relationship, my car broke down, she did not have a job for a while.

Lots of things happened when we were dating. We both invested lots of time and energy with each other. Eventually it became time to move on because we both knew that we were not the ones for each other. There were many strong lessons which I learned during that relationship. One of the biggest ones was the knowledge I had gained about sex, and the importance of passion by talking dirty during sex.

The funny thing was that I did not really think about how we talked dirty to each other so consistently until after we stopped dating. It had become so routine that it was just part of my life. One day it dawned on me – How and why did I start talking dirty with her?

How To Start Talking Dirty

Long distance relationships are getting more common around the world.  One of the reasons for this is because there are numerous new ways for people to communicate with each other through social networking online.  Two of my favorites are  Twitter, and Facebook.  Twitter and Facebook both allow messaging and private messaging to any one of their friends easily and quickly.  Also, there are other more obvious ways that  people communicate like cell phones, and e-mailing.  Couples are away from each other for weeks, and months at a time yet they are still able to keep up on everything that is going on in the other persons life.  Long distance relationships are basically dependent on these communication devices.

Although a couple is separated on the globe, the fact that they love each other, and they have a will to do anything for each other is enough reason to stay in the relationship.  When the love is strong there is no end to what any one partner would do for the other.  Although these relationships seem perfect and wonderful because of the love, physically staying away from your partner will take the passion away from the love in most cases.

Five Reasons Why Long Distance Relationships Usually Do Not Work

1. No kissing, no cuddling, no holding hands, and of course no sex.

Sure there are other reasons behind being in a relationship other than intimate ones but if someone is away from their partner for months at a time it is human nature to be looking at other people.  There may or may not be some cheating, but even if your long distance relationship partner is having those feelings for someone else that would cause some interesting conversation, especially if you are being honest with each other.  Honesty, something that I say is important to do in just about every article that I write.

2. One of you will meet someone else.

I know that you are thinking that would never happen to you and your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife but it is only natural for people to try to fill their needs.  It would be kind of hard for you to do the same things that someone else can if you are in New York, while your partner is in Canada.  Just an example.

3. No true trust.

For the most part people in relationships say that they trust each other.  But let us just say for example, what if a husband went to a bar and went to bed and did not call his wife before bed.  Should his wife trust him?  What if it happened every couple of weeks? Of course she should trust him.  He is her husband, but do all women truly trust their husbands?  This could really tear a relationship apart.

Is it true that being too nice in a relationship can lead to a disaster?  If you say “yes” to every single thing he or she asks of you is that too much?

This post is going to go over why you can never be too nice in a relationship but at the same time how it is important to be yourself.  If you always do what your partner wants and always answer questions how your partner would like them to be answered, you are not being yourself and you are not being the person that your partner fell in love with when he or she did.

A Good Balance

While it is important to be interested and do things that your partner likes to do it is also important to stand strong and say no “That is not for me”.

For example, if you are a straight man and your partner always goes shopping every other week with her friends.  She may ask you to go because she always wants to you to be there with her. Which is a really sweet gesture of her but you would rather stay home.  You should stay home.  Let her be with her friends and you will see her later.  However, if your partner wants to have dinner when she gets home you should start preparing it or have a plan to go out so she knows you were thinking about her all day long.

Another example for the straight woman who does not want to fishing with her partner even though her partner goes every other week and always asks you if you would like to go.  The thing is that you really do not like fishing.  You should stay home.   Let him have some time with his friends.  Do not worry your boyfriend is not going to be out cheating on you, he is simply going to be out fishing (just something that you would rather not be doing).  Just letting him do this without giving him a hard time is really nice and your boyfriend or husband will appreciate it greatly.

When your man fishes he probably will come home smelling like a big fish.  Have him take a shower and when he comes out have something waiting for him to be happy about.  Maybe a nice snack, some beer to share with him, a movie you went out and rented, or even just go to his bed and wait for him naked until he comes out of the shower.  Any of these are all good and healthy for your relationship.

Missing Your Significant Other Is Passionate

Just the fact that you are not with them for a little bit of there day does not mean that the other person should think you do not like them.  It should just make you both miss each other.  When you spend a life with someone it is important to always have passion for each other.  Missing each other at times is often one of the best ways to keep the passion in a relationship alive.  Otherwise things can get boring and ordinary for both of you.

So the title “Why Being Nice to Your Partner all the Time is Shooting You in the Foot” stands true.  You do not want to always do what your partner wants.  It would be like shooting yourself in the foot (a metaphor for have a boring relationship).

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Look how serious I look in my picture, it is pretty ridiculous if you ask me.  I was just going to delete it off my camera but then I realized that it would be perfect for this post because the importance of time apart from your partner is a serious matter in a relationship.

It does not matter what gender you are – you need to have time for yourself.

This does not mean that you need to go lock yourself in your room and not come out.  It just means to do things that just you want to do.  Live some of your life away from your partner.  There are incredible benefits to this which I will get to later on in this post.

You may be thinking everything I have and do has something to do with my partner.  He/she may have the same friends as you because you both introduced them to each other.

You may be thinking, I work with my lover so I can not get away it is nearly impossible.

You might be thinking there is no way to do this because you have kids and you and there is no where for me to go besides being right next to them.  Or you could possibly be thinking something completely different.

Keep reading and let me explain the importance of not spending every second together and it’s benefits.

The way I see it there are three different ways to having a relationship.

1. Be with your partner and only your partner 100% of your free time.
2. Go out and do things with your partner and friends and but never do it without the company of your partner.
3. Spend most of your days during the week with your partner, spend the others being with friends on your own, and having alone time to yourself.

The third way to have a relationship is the most healthy and here is why.  First and foremost so you can have time to miss each other.  This is very important in my relationship.  I see my girlfriend about five times a week which I think is perfect.  Although I would like to see her every day and she would like to see me every day we know it is for the best.  This is because when we see each other it makes us really excited.

Also having time to just be with your friends and not your partner is good because you can truly be yourself and not hold anything back.  This does not mean that you are all the sudden single because you are not with them at the moment it just means that you are hanging out with your friends.  It is as simple as that.  When you get home to your partner they will miss you like crazy and will want you more then anything.

If you are with someone that does not let you have this time for yourself then they could just be insecure which is a whole other issue which I will write about in future posts.

I have been in relationships that I have spent 100% of my time with my girlfriend and they have all turned unsuccessful.  I know for fact this is the only way to go.  I hope after reading this you have a better idea of why it is important to have time for yourself in your relationship.