Look how serious I look in my picture, it is pretty ridiculous if you ask me.  I was just going to delete it off my camera but then I realized that it would be perfect for this post because the importance of time apart from your partner is a serious matter in a relationship.

It does not matter what gender you are – you need to have time for yourself.

This does not mean that you need to go lock yourself in your room and not come out.  It just means to do things that just you want to do.  Live some of your life away from your partner.  There are incredible benefits to this which I will get to later on in this post.

You may be thinking everything I have and do has something to do with my partner.  He/she may have the same friends as you because you both introduced them to each other.

You may be thinking, I work with my lover so I can not get away it is nearly impossible.

You might be thinking there is no way to do this because you have kids and you and there is no where for me to go besides being right next to them.  Or you could possibly be thinking something completely different.

Keep reading and let me explain the importance of not spending every second together and it’s benefits.

The way I see it there are three different ways to having a relationship.

1. Be with your partner and only your partner 100% of your free time.
2. Go out and do things with your partner and friends and but never do it without the company of your partner.
3. Spend most of your days during the week with your partner, spend the others being with friends on your own, and having alone time to yourself.

The third way to have a relationship is the most healthy and here is why.  First and foremost so you can have time to miss each other.  This is very important in my relationship.  I see my girlfriend about five times a week which I think is perfect.  Although I would like to see her every day and she would like to see me every day we know it is for the best.  This is because when we see each other it makes us really excited.

Also having time to just be with your friends and not your partner is good because you can truly be yourself and not hold anything back.  This does not mean that you are all the sudden single because you are not with them at the moment it just means that you are hanging out with your friends.  It is as simple as that.  When you get home to your partner they will miss you like crazy and will want you more then anything.

If you are with someone that does not let you have this time for yourself then they could just be insecure which is a whole other issue which I will write about in future posts.

I have been in relationships that I have spent 100% of my time with my girlfriend and they have all turned unsuccessful.  I know for fact this is the only way to go.  I hope after reading this you have a better idea of why it is important to have time for yourself in your relationship.

Since I think most of us know when you are infatuated with or in love with someone I will make this short and to the point.  Being in love with someone is a feeling that is way different then just being attracted to someone.  It can happen at any time: The moment you meet someone, after you have seen the person multiple times, or it can actually happen after some casual meetings or even from a friendship.  Love is way stronger then just being attracted to someone, and at the time that you are in love with someone, only one person can make you feel the way that you do.

• Can you be in love with two people at once? Not truly in love.
• What is a good “sign” to know if you’re in love? Blushing when they come near you, or even a rise of temperature in your body.
• How do you feel when you are in love? You feel great! You both may feel a strong bond of energy when you are with one another.

Being in love is exciting, fun, and probably the best feeling someone can ever feel.  That is why people get so upset when they break up with someone that they were previously in love with.   Sometimes when people break up with someone that they were in love with do everything they can in order to get love back with someone else.  Some people are actually addicted to falling in love!  Those people find new relationships right away, straight after breaking up with someone.  I have met people like that and naturally they do not seem to ever fall in true love.