Since in previous posts I have talked about my girlfriend and experiences that I have learned from my ex-girlfriends I thought I would introduce you to my girlfriend. I haven’t asked her if I could write her name on my blog or not so her name is just going to remain anonymous.

We were both single

Hey, what do you know, two people that are single started dating.

You might be thinking “Why did JM just write that down? Of course you two were single.”

No actually, this is not always the case. Fairly regularly I am meeting people that meet each other while they are dating other people. I don’t necessarily think that is healthy but it does work for some people. For the two of us, my girlfriend and I, we were both single.

We were friends

Where ever you go in this world there are going to be some crazy desperate people.

Alex Vasquez, (yannibmbr) author of the blog, The Urban Dater wrote a post about a crazy text conversation that his buddy Rod had with this girl Melina. It was so interesting that I thought I would write a little post on my blog about it.

Well truthfully it was not so interesting as it was frustrating to read because Melina is so psycho, but I guess that is what made it so interesting. It really reminded me of yesterdays post, 3 Reasons Why Insecurities Are Difficult To Handle In A Relationship.

So the post on The Urban Dater is about how Rod meets Melina when he goes out, and how Melina is so desperately trying to get a hold of Rod afterwards. Rod is a busy guy and politely tells Melina that he will talk to her when he is not so busy.  This is not good enough for Melina though. She insists that she needs to talk now! She is really infatuated with Rod who she just met you know.

This is a really comical post and I urge you to read it.  I don’t want to spoil it for you though. You can read the original post on The Urban Dater’s blog it’s called: The Anatomy Of A Crazy Text Message.

I think that he thought the conversation of texts was over between the two so he published that, but Melina I guess was not quite done. So he had to write a second post which he just wrote yesterday. This blog post is called Anatomy Of A Crazy Text… Continued.

I urge you to check them out if you are looking for a laugh. My guess is Melina is still not even done bothering Rod and that there will probably be another post on The Urban Dater about crazy texts from Melina in the near future.

Going out to eat has been a dating staple for centuries. It is the most common date for people to go on even to this day. You need to eat, so you might as well do it with your partner right?

Unfortunately, going out to eat with your partner can get kind of expensive. Which is why so many people say when they break up with someone they say a positive thing that comes out of it is that they will have more money! The truth is that relationships are one of the biggest reasons why the restaurant business is such a big one!

The positives that come out of taking your partner out are the following:

1. Get good food.
2. Show your partner that they are special to you.
3. Enjoy new experiences with them.
4. Have something to talk about.
5. Be able to have some “one on one time” to communicate with them with whatever you would like.
6. Show off your partner to the world.

I’m sure there are some more but those are just some off top of my head. I love taking my girlfriend out for all of those reasons. There is no better feeling then watching a guy check out my girlfriend but no that I am the one with her. :)

Although it is nice to take your partner out to eat there are also some negatives that come out of it. A few that I have come up with are:

For those of you reading this who are not seeing anyone and are sick of being single I’m going to tell you something really important. Ready? Well here it is. You will not and can not go places with the intention of trying to find someone that you can date.

I know you are thinking that you have some questions that you wish you could ask me huh? Well, let me clarify this because I know what you are most likely thinking. You are probably thinking “wait if I can’t be looking for someone when I am out, how I am going to find someone?” The answer is…

With Patience

I know that there are some of you out there who have been in a long term relationships that can’t stand the thought of not being with someone. So when your relationship of years and years breaks up you find someone a couple of weeks later that you are then attached to. Kind of like a replacement.

I’m actually guilty of this. When I broke up with my ex about 7 months ago, just about 2 weeks after this I started dating another girl. I did not know it would last as long as it has because we are still together. But I am really happy it did because she makes me really happy. I got really lucky. Nonetheless, the reason why we have been in such a solid and healthy relationship with each other is because we started dating naturally.

Find Each Other Naturally

Is it true that being too nice in a relationship can lead to a disaster?  If you say “yes” to every single thing he or she asks of you is that too much?

This post is going to go over why you can never be too nice in a relationship but at the same time how it is important to be yourself.  If you always do what your partner wants and always answer questions how your partner would like them to be answered, you are not being yourself and you are not being the person that your partner fell in love with when he or she did.

A Good Balance

While it is important to be interested and do things that your partner likes to do it is also important to stand strong and say no “That is not for me”.

For example, if you are a straight man and your partner always goes shopping every other week with her friends.  She may ask you to go because she always wants to you to be there with her. Which is a really sweet gesture of her but you would rather stay home.  You should stay home.  Let her be with her friends and you will see her later.  However, if your partner wants to have dinner when she gets home you should start preparing it or have a plan to go out so she knows you were thinking about her all day long.

Another example for the straight woman who does not want to fishing with her partner even though her partner goes every other week and always asks you if you would like to go.  The thing is that you really do not like fishing.  You should stay home.   Let him have some time with his friends.  Do not worry your boyfriend is not going to be out cheating on you, he is simply going to be out fishing (just something that you would rather not be doing).  Just letting him do this without giving him a hard time is really nice and your boyfriend or husband will appreciate it greatly.

When your man fishes he probably will come home smelling like a big fish.  Have him take a shower and when he comes out have something waiting for him to be happy about.  Maybe a nice snack, some beer to share with him, a movie you went out and rented, or even just go to his bed and wait for him naked until he comes out of the shower.  Any of these are all good and healthy for your relationship.

Missing Your Significant Other Is Passionate

Just the fact that you are not with them for a little bit of there day does not mean that the other person should think you do not like them.  It should just make you both miss each other.  When you spend a life with someone it is important to always have passion for each other.  Missing each other at times is often one of the best ways to keep the passion in a relationship alive.  Otherwise things can get boring and ordinary for both of you.

So the title “Why Being Nice to Your Partner all the Time is Shooting You in the Foot” stands true.  You do not want to always do what your partner wants.  It would be like shooting yourself in the foot (a metaphor for have a boring relationship).

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