How much do you do for your girlfriend or wife? For your boyfriend, or husband? Where do you draw the line? When do you know that you are doing too much? Questions I know that I have found myself asking my friends, and myself throughout the years.

Sure I want to make the girlfriend I am seeing the happiest she can possibly be, but is there a point of which that you are doing too much? For example, if your partner asked you to tie his/her shoes, what would you say?

Well… of course you would. There would have to be a logical reason why your partner asked you to do that. Like maybe your partner is hurt, or if he/she was drunk, or if there was some reason why she  was not capable of doing it. It better be a reason like that right? I would hope your partner isn’t just asking you to tie their shoes because they are lazy!

Personally, I would tie my girlfriends shoes if she asked because I know she really would really need me to. That’s why she would be asking me.  She would not just ask me so she could feel empowered. If she was, I would probably laugh and be like “Right…”

The title of this post, “Does She Make You Tie Her Shoes?” is a metaphor. It’s a metaphor for how much would you do for your partner?

Doing Everything They Ask

Since in previous posts I have talked about my girlfriend and experiences that I have learned from my ex-girlfriends I thought I would introduce you to my girlfriend. I haven’t asked her if I could write her name on my blog or not so her name is just going to remain anonymous.

We were both single

Hey, what do you know, two people that are single started dating.

You might be thinking “Why did JM just write that down? Of course you two were single.”

No actually, this is not always the case. Fairly regularly I am meeting people that meet each other while they are dating other people. I don’t necessarily think that is healthy but it does work for some people. For the two of us, my girlfriend and I, we were both single.

We were friends

Where ever you go in this world there are going to be some crazy desperate people.

Alex Vasquez, (yannibmbr) author of the blog, The Urban Dater wrote a post about a crazy text conversation that his buddy Rod had with this girl Melina. It was so interesting that I thought I would write a little post on my blog about it.

Well truthfully it was not so interesting as it was frustrating to read because Melina is so psycho, but I guess that is what made it so interesting. It really reminded me of yesterdays post, 3 Reasons Why Insecurities Are Difficult To Handle In A Relationship.

So the post on The Urban Dater is about how Rod meets Melina when he goes out, and how Melina is so desperately trying to get a hold of Rod afterwards. Rod is a busy guy and politely tells Melina that he will talk to her when he is not so busy.  This is not good enough for Melina though. She insists that she needs to talk now! She is really infatuated with Rod who she just met you know.

This is a really comical post and I urge you to read it.  I don’t want to spoil it for you though. You can read the original post on The Urban Dater’s blog it’s called: The Anatomy Of A Crazy Text Message.

I think that he thought the conversation of texts was over between the two so he published that, but Melina I guess was not quite done. So he had to write a second post which he just wrote yesterday. This blog post is called Anatomy Of A Crazy Text… Continued.

I urge you to check them out if you are looking for a laugh. My guess is Melina is still not even done bothering Rod and that there will probably be another post on The Urban Dater about crazy texts from Melina in the near future.

Being with someone who is insecure is difficult in many different ways. To name three of them: They constantly and/or consistently think they are:

1. Ugly and/or fat.
2. Not the center of your world.
3. Are having trust issues.

Since I have a couple of ex’s who were really insecure I have a little story to tell from previous experiences about these three reasons. Alright so here we go.

Hopefully everyone will enjoy these bits and pieces of my ex’s life and get enough information from them so you do not go through what I had to go through in order to learn what I did.

1. Ugly and/or fat.

My ex always thought she was for one ugly, and for two fat. I’m not talking about the normal thing “just saying your fat” kind of stuff because just about every female I know says stuff like that. It was seriously something that happened all the time.

The funniest part about it was she was not fat! It got so annoying hearing her say it all the time. It’s one thing to not be confident all the time, and it is another to not be confident all the time and put yourself down.

That is what she did all the time. Her insecurities with her body destroyed me. I would tell her that she looked good, when she really did. I would also tell her that she was not fat, because she really was not.

But nothing I could say or do could make her feel otherwise. She was just insecure about the relationship I guess.

Whenever I complimented her she would always say “You’re just saying that because you are my boyfriend.” That would seriously annoy the crap out of me.

I know what you are thinking, a lot of girls think they are fat. True, but when you are insecure you start hating on yourself for it. Most girls when they say they are fat, are not trying to hurt their own feelings like my ex would always do to herself.  This is why I put “ugly and/or fat” as the number one reason why being with someone who is insecure is difficult.

2. Not the center of your world.

Going out to eat has been a dating staple for centuries. It is the most common date for people to go on even to this day. You need to eat, so you might as well do it with your partner right?

Unfortunately, going out to eat with your partner can get kind of expensive. Which is why so many people say when they break up with someone they say a positive thing that comes out of it is that they will have more money! The truth is that relationships are one of the biggest reasons why the restaurant business is such a big one!

The positives that come out of taking your partner out are the following:

1. Get good food.
2. Show your partner that they are special to you.
3. Enjoy new experiences with them.
4. Have something to talk about.
5. Be able to have some “one on one time” to communicate with them with whatever you would like.
6. Show off your partner to the world.

I’m sure there are some more but those are just some off top of my head. I love taking my girlfriend out for all of those reasons. There is no better feeling then watching a guy check out my girlfriend but no that I am the one with her. :)

Although it is nice to take your partner out to eat there are also some negatives that come out of it. A few that I have come up with are: